Lover of Mine

Relationship is defined as the state of connection between people, especially when emotions are involved. But what about our connection to our inner selves? Isn’t that also some kind of a relationship?

Some people call it narcissism when one gives more importance and admiration to oneself. Others call it selfishness when one does not share one’s time and efforts towards others. Indifference and apathy complete the foursome when concern about others’ welfare becomes a non priority.

People point out the differences in degrees but all the same, they result to shutting out others from one self.

When we treat ourselves as the center of the universe, when all the rest take second fiddle to our starring role, when me, me, me but only me provide us with complete satisfaction, then excessive love of one self is definitely not the answer to making us complete human beings.

Most of you know the song that stated, “The greatest love of all is easy to achieve. Learning to love oneself is the greatest love of all.” This is not a validation to narcissism but rather a reminder that succeeding in accepting and loving ourselves equates to knowing how to love others. If we value our personal lives, then we could do to with other people.

Moderation in everything is a virtue. It does not lead us astray.



20 thoughts on “Lover of Mine

  1. What you say is NOT narcissism. Narcissism is when you focus on yourself all the time and it’s a psychological pattern. I grew up with that, ugh! I think we do need relationships with ourselves and the spirit within ourselves because that, ultimately, is the bigger more important connection to everything. 🙂

    1. When one focuses on one self, isn’t that giving more importance and thus admiration? 🙂
      You’re correct. Connection with our inner selves matter.
      Thank you sharing your thoughts.

      1. No I don’t think it’s always admiration when one focuses on oneself. Focusing on oneself can be thoughtful and trying to improve which does not mean admiration at all. But glad you agree with the latter 😛

      2. Well, I must admit you have a point. It’s the excess of focus I am probably thinking of. 🙂
        I appreciate the exchange of ideas. I am always glad to learn new perspectives.

      3. The excess if it’s constant is narcissism. I’m quite versed in this area as I’ve had YEARS of therapy having lived under a narcissistic mother. lol

  2. There is a fine line between narcissism and a healthy love of yourself. I was told once no one can truly love you if you don’t love yourself, and through my life I have found that to be true. But if you love yourself too much and not many other people will or will be able to live up to your expectations.

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